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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 9

 

By now, you may have come to realize that you need help to improve your health and live in harmony with the NEWSTART principles.  Perhaps you have been trying to improve your lifestyle, but you realize that your efforts to change the habits that may have impaired your health have been fruitless. The ninth blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on trust in divine power. 

Question:  Have you considered that the power to change may need to come from outside of you rather than from within?

For some people, the changes that need to be made are only small ones, but for others the changes may seem insurmountable. Regardless of the changes that need to be made, achieving good health (and maintaining it!) may best be accomplished not by “trying” to make the changes, but by “trusting” that the changes can be made. Lasting change can only come when you realize how ineffective your own efforts have been to fight the disease or the habits that have brought on the disease. Maybe your doctor has already warned you of an impending stroke or heart attack. When this realization of the gravity of your situation sinks in, you are headed in the right direction. The next step is to develop trust. But trust in what? Some addiction recovery groups say to put your trust in a higher power. At The Road and with the NEWSTART program, we believe the only Higher Power that is worthy of our complete trust is God, the Creator of the universe, our forever Friend.

Question:  When life is a mess, do you wig out and become really stressed or do you have peace because you trust in God?

 “The peace that God gives goes right to the soul, relieving the heart and mind.”

Henry Blackaby

God inspired writers of the Bible to instruct and encourage us on this topic:

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5-6

My God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

As Jesus was preparing to depart earth and be with his Father, he told his disciples, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27

Paul expresses his trust in God this way: “Casting all your anxiety upon Him for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7).

Anxiety (or worry) is a state of mistrust and has led to many dire and evil consequences from drug addiction to suicide. It can cause high blood pressure, heart disease and even cancer. Resentment, hate, and anger cause anxiety. Anxiety and resentment may indicate a lack of the necessary trust that leads to a peaceful and content existence (see Matthew 6:25-34). Anxiety is gripping our nation due to natural disasters, economic insecurity, broken families, and social deterioration. This is the time to cast your anxiety upon God and trust Him. Won’t you consider giving Him a chance to show you what He can do? He’s waiting to give you strength and comfort like you’ve never had before.

When we feel we cannot change our bad habits, then trust that God can! Hand over control and trust in His power to give you the strength to make the right decisions. The result? Jesus said, “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10).

The Bible reveals the God of love who wants you to live a long, happy, and healthy life.

Question:  Are you committed to walking by faith and trusting God’s ways and not your own?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.amazinghealthfacts.org

 

 

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 8

 

People today are driven by urgency in daily routines and by the complex structure of western society. We are constantly forced to give more of ourselves in every moment and to live life at faster speeds. As we seek higher performance and greater production, we tend to leave aside the need for rest, relaxation and balance in our lifestyles.  The consequences are detrimental to our health and wellness and we experience the following negative side effects:

Deterioration of health through nervous disorders, stomach ulcers, constipation, chronic intestinal disorders, and heart and respiratory disorders.

Pre-disposition to accidents and injuries due to overwork and tiredness.

Decrease in overall performance, especially of the mind, concentration levels, and the ability to be creative. 

The increase in irritability, resentment, insecurity, fear, and aggression which leads to instability in our lives.

That is why rest is one of the NEWSTART Principles listed below:

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The eighth blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on rest.  There are four kinds of rest that a person needs:

Daily rest or sleep.  Most experts tell us that the average adult needs between 7-8 hours of sleep per night to maintain optimal health.  Going to bed by 9pm or 10pm and sleeping until 5am or 6am will help you feel energized and ready to start your day.  The key is to go to bed with as little chaos and distractions in your mind.  Limit your TV, movie, music, and internet viewing at least an hour before you go to bed so you can be at peace when you are ready to go to sleep.

Weekly rest.  Even in the Bible God teaches us to work 6 days with a 7th day rest.  We were not designed to work 7 days a week, 24 hours a day!  Taking a day to relax, spend time with family, go to church, get out in nature, connect with God and just rejuvenate.  Do things in your life that bring you peace and rest. 

Recreation.  It’s very healthy to relax, go on vacation, and just have some fun!  I call it re-creation. Get outside, get moving, be active, run, jump, and play.  We were created and designed to enjoy life and our hobbies.  This helps to break up the rhythm of life and offers our bodies and systems a nice change. 

Meditation.  Quiet time and seclusion can be a great benefit to rest as well.  Time to plan, to dream, to think, to process, to just be still and quiet in your thoughts.  If you are needing direction or wisdom with something in your life, close your eyes, breathe in and out deeply, and just in your own way, ask God to guide and direct your life. 

Question:  Are you committed to going to bed earlier than normal and getting 8 hours of sleep each night at a minimum and take one day a week OFF and just relax, rejuvenate, and connect with those things that are really important to you?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

 

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 7

 

Our lungs love to breathe delicious fresh air as it revitalizes our minds and bodies. Unfortunately, most of us don't get the optimal amount of fresh air needed. When the same air is breathed several times a day, as when many people are in a confined area, it loses its vitality, and impurities may be inhaled repeatedly.  Our work places, home, and sleeping areas should be well ventilated with fresh air. Fresh air is chemically different than the re-circulated indoor air that most people breathe. High quality fresh air is actually electrified - the oxygen molecule is negatively charged.  Fresh air produces a healthy mind, clean lungs, and a calmer constitution when we actively use it.

Oxygen is a very important component of life. Fresh air is a free gift that we need to breathe liberally. Research shows that fresh air "helps keep our moods buoyant and positive.  That is why it’s part of the  NEWSTART Principles:

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The seventh blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on air.  The benefits that are received from having a constant supply of pure, fresh air are:

·         Fresh air purifies the blood, imparts to it a bright color, and sends the blood, a life-giving current, to every part of the body.

·         Air soothes the nerves, stimulates appetite, helps digestion, and induces sound, refreshing sleep.

·         Air invigorates the vital organs and aids the system in getting rid of an accumulation of impurities.

·         Pure air brings life to the skin, as for a lack of air the skin nearly dies.

·         Air has a decided influence on the mind, imparting a degree of composure and serenity.

·         Fresh air, especially when we exercise, will stimulate our appetite, and greatly aid and improve digestion of food.

·         Exercises in more clean air helps improve our breathing technique. Better technique increases stamina. More oxygen to the muscles reduces the lactic acid build-up in the muscles which leads to cramping.

·         Oxygen electrifies the whole system, causes the body to be strong and healthy, and will refresh the system.

·         Oxygen is used for cell metabolism, and as we exhale, carbon dioxide (cellular waste) is breathed out.

·         Oxygen has negative ions that are useful in giving electrical energy to the body, especially the nervous system. This will give us a sense of well-being, serenity, and composure.

·         Oxygen kills bacteria as it strengthens the immune system. When the white blood cells are called upon by the immune system to destroy germs, bacteria and viruses, they need much more oxygen than normal.

Question:  Are you committed to getting 20-30 minutes of fresh air daily?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

 

 

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 6

Temperance means restraint and moderation, but if you're talking about alcohol, temperance means not just drinking in moderation, it means not having it at all.

The temperance movement appeared in the U.S. in the 19th century, at first urging moderation in drinking but eventually seeking to outlaw alcohol entirely. It managed to get Prohibition enacted in 1919, which did outlaw alcohol, but it was repealed in 1933. Temperance doesn't just have to do with alcohol, it can refer to avoiding any kind of excess: if your new diet requires temperance, you're eating in a balanced, sensible way. The NEWSTART principles include temperance in their eight letter acronym: 

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The sixth blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on temperance.  The Bible puts it best when the wisest man who ever lived gave this timely advice Proverbs 15:24:  “Wise people’s lives get better and better.  They would avoid whatever would cause their death.”  The basic principle is to live as healthy as you can and partake rarely of those things which can be a negative influence on your health.  The big five areas of temperance include:

Smoking:  This addictive habit kills 440,000 Americans every year.  It’s one of the few vices where you cannot find one healthy or good trait about it.  It’s toxic and destroys a person’s health.  It causes heart disease, strokes, massive cancers, emphysema, poor circulation, and shortness of breath.  If you smoke, your lifespan will be cut by at least 10 years!

Alcohol:  This is a very deceptive drug.  It’s addictive, it destroys brain cells, and it dramatically affects our ability to reason. 

Caffeine:  Caffeine is a stimulant that is mildly addictive, as well as being linked to osteoporosis, jitteriness, high blood pressure, headaches, and it creates a metabolic dependency. 


Fast Food:  Over the last 40 years, Americans have increased eating at fast food restaurants by over $105 billion per year.  Morgan Spurlock proved in his movie, “Super Size Me” that eating fast food can have severe health consequences.  Obesity is the #1 health concern for Americans today, with over 34% of the population being 30 lbs overweight or more.  Almost ½ of every dollar is spent eating out and 90% of every dollar spent on food is for processed foods. 

 

Diet and Cola Drinks:  Drinking soda on an everyday basis can have health consequences. While an occasional soda is not a health risk for most people, regular consumption, even one or two sodas daily, can add up to health trouble over the long run, whether it is diet soda or regular. Over-consumption of soda has been linked to increased risk of a variety of diseases and health conditions, some of which can pose serious health risks such as: Obesity, cardiovascular disease, tooth decay, metabolic syndrome, and kidney issues.  When you combine, sugar, fat, caffeine, artificial sweeteners, and toxic chemicals, it becomes a huge heath issue for most people. 

Question:  Are you committed to eliminating or living in moderation the “Big Five” in your life?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

 

 

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 5

Provoked by high rates of skin cancer, many people avoid the sun as much as possible and cover themselves with sunscreen before spending any time outdoors. Sadly, these people are actually increasing their risk for cancer and other diseases.  For thousands of years, humans have spent many hours out in the sun each day without the protection of sunscreen. As such, it seems completely backwards for this natural and essential part of life to be considered dangerous. A closer look at the issue reveals that it is indeed backwards and that the fear of sun exposure is the real problem. That’s why sunlight has been promoted as one of the NEWSTART Principles, it is vital for our health and immune system. 

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The fifth blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on sunshine.  Here are the benefits of getting sunshine on a daily basis:

Reduce risk of Type 2 diabetes. Some studies suggest that vitamin D can reduce the risk of developing it.

Reduce cancer risk. There are lessened mortality rates for 15-20 types of cancer in regions of higher solar UVB exposure, particularly for breast, colon, and rectal cancer. Those patients who had higher vitamin D blood levels when diagnosed had nearly twice the survival rate of those with the lowest levels.

Helps produce stronger bones. Vitamin D boosts calcium absorption for strong bones, which means you’re less chance for fractures and osteoporosis. 

Protect eye health. Vitamin D has been tentatively linked to lower incidence of cataracts, and studies indicate good D levels correlate to lower risk of macular degeneration as a person ages. 

Boost immunity. Researchers believe that vitamin D is integral to proper function of the body’s T cells-the body’s immune system’s first line of defense.

Lowers blood pressure. The warmth of the sun can improve circulation, and increased Vitamin D levels have been shown to reduce blood pressure in hypertensive subjects— perhaps as effectively as medication.

Stimulates the pineal gland in the brain. The pineal gland produces feel-good chemicals that help boost your moods. Sunshine has been shown time and again to improve mood, fight Seasonal Affective Disorder and lessen stress. Not to mention, we’re more likely to MOVE when we’re outside basking in the sun. And physical activity is definitely good for you!

Reduce stroke risk. There are likely a lot of factors at work here, but in one survey people who lived in areas with less sun exposure had a stroke risk that was 60% higher than those who lived in sunshine-y regions.

Sleep better. Daily time in the sun helps to regulate circadian rhythms for a better night’s sleep.

Question:  Are you committed to exposing yourself to 20 minutes of sunshine each day?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

 

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 4

 

Water is the great natural flushing agent of the body.  It hauls off the waste from the old cells, plus the waste from what a person eats.  The best fluid that can dissolve toxic waste in your body is water!  It has no calories and requires no processing.  Water is so important that it was put in the top eight health principles for us to abide by. 

TheWeimar Institute of Health and Education created what is now known all over the world as the NEWSTART Principles, please check out www.newstart.com.  NEWSTART acronym which stands for: 

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The fourth blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on water.  “Many physicians mistake dehydration for one or another disease and treat the symptoms with medication rather than water!  This is why 37% of Americans are grossly over-weight because their bodies are always in the crisis of dehydration.  When the body becomes dehydrated the cells become depleted of energy.  They now get their energy generation from food that is consumed instead of water.  This pushes the body into becoming a fat storing machine!  Dr. F. Batmanghelidj from his book, “You’re not sick, YOU’RE THIRSTY!”

Powerful Benefits of Drinking Water Daily

Water is the only liquid on Earth that safely reduces weight. It removes the by-products of fat and keeps you fresh and healthy.  Drinking water regularly, suppresses your appetite to a great extent and limits your food intake.

Do you want to look younger? Water moisturizes your skin and keeps it fresh and helps maintain the elasticity and suppleness of the skin and prevents dryness by detoxifying the skin.

Water can also combat skin disorders such as eczema, psoriasis, dry skin, wrinkles and spots

Water is an essential component required for the effective working of our body since body parts including our brain and the various tissues are mostly composed of water.

Water can significantly improve our ability to think and make us energetic too.

Water removes toxins and most of the waste products from our body contributing to a healthy quality of life.

If you substitute water with milk, tea, coffee or other beverages then you will have increased chances of incurring a heart attack, with a precise rate of 50% in women and 46% in men.

Water helps to relieve headaches and back pain mostly caused by dehydration. 

Regular intake of water increases your metabolic rate and improves your digestive system.

Drinking  plenty of water helps fight against the flu and other ailments like kidney stones.  On the whole, water plays a fundamental role in strengthening your immune system

Question:  How much water does a person need to drink daily?  There is a simple formula to figure this out: 

Write down your body weight in pounds__________

Divide this number by 2______________

The number you come up with is how many ounces of water you should drink each day!

Question:  Are you committed to drinking 8-10 large glasses of water each day?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 3

 

Medical science today has made great steps in understanding health and nutrition.  As a matter of fact, what they are discovering is that there is an intimate relationship between the mind and the body. 

Think about this, is it worth having everything you’ve dreamed of, yet not have your physical health to be able to enjoy it?  What good is it to succeed, make lots of money, retire at 65 but be sick, diseased, and die a few years later?  Too many people are running out of gas up the mountain of success and it doesn’t have to be this way.  That’s why NEWSTART makes so much sense. 

TheWeimar Institute of Health and Education created what is now known all over the world as the NEWSTART Principles, please check out www.newstart.com  NEWSTART acronym which stands for: 

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The third blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on exercise.  Did you know that in the United States, as many as 250,000 deaths per year are attributed in part to a lack of regular exercise. 

There is a big difference between health and fitness.  Fitness is the physical ability to perform athletic activity.  Health is when ALL the systems of the body are working in an optimal way.  We want to be healthy first and foremost, then fit we can add on top as we are able. 

Question:  So what are the common benefits of exercise?

Lowers bad cholesterol known as LDL

Raises the good cholesterol known as HDL

Strengthens bones

Lifts depression and makes you feel good

Relieves anxiety and increases energy

Speeds up the body’s metabolism

Burns fat and builds muscle

Provides better sleep

There are two types of exercise:  Aerobic and Anaerobic.  Aerobic means with oxygen and exercise that is sustained over a period of time like walking or jogging.  Anaerobic means without oxygen, it refers to short bursts of exercise you can only sustain for a short period of time like weight training and resistance movements.  Optimal health would have a person if possible, to perform both aerobic and anaerobic activities each week, preferably in the morning when your metabolism is cranked up and your body is rested. 

The ideal exercise program would be for 30 minutes, 5 days per week, with anaerobic (3) times per week and cardio (2) times per week.  I would encourage everyone to find a fitness center near them and make the investment of physical health over some of the other things you might be doing that are counter-productive to that. 

Question:  What one thing can you do today that will improve the fitness level in your life?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 2

 

TheWeimar Institute of Health and Education was opened in May, 1978 and created what is now known all over the world as the NEWSTART Principles, please check out www.newstart.com.  NEWSTART acronym which stands for: 

N= Nutrition

E= Exercise

W= Water 

S= Sunshine

T= Temperance

A= Air

R= Rest

T= Trust in Divine Power 

The second blog on the NEWSTART principles is going to focus on nutrition.  The question of the day is whether or not health is a matter of chance or choice?  The facts are that 100 years ago only 15% of people died from heart disease, today its 40%. 100 years ago only 6% of people died from cancer, today its 26%.  If you are honest with yourself and look around you will see the reality that 62% of Americans are overweight.  A terrible fact is that since 1980 child obesity has tripled!

When you really analyze what Americans are dying from today, you cannot but help to link it to what we feed our bodies and our poor nutritional choices.  The top six killers of Americans today are:  Heart disease, stroke, high blood pressure, diabetes, cancer, and obesity.  The sad thing in all this is that science has proven that 90% of all sickness, disease, auto-immune disorders, are mostly the result of the things we do to ourselves and our poor choices we make with our lifestyles. 

From a nutritional standpoint, Americans consume too much sugar, refined foods, salt, fat, soda’s, and snacks.  As a matter of fact, a recent Harvard University study has shown that regular meat consumption increases the risk of colon cancer by 300%.  Too many Americans today have clogged up pipes!  So what is the best nutritional diet that promotes health and vitality for us?

Believe it or not, the Bible has some very beneficial dietary principles for us.  In the Garden of Eden, the original diet was vegetarian:  Plants, fruits, and vegetables.  For many people that just doesn’t work for them,  so the next best diet was the one followed by God’s people throughout the Bible.  Here’s how it works:

If you are going to eat land animals, they need to chew the cud and have cloven hoofs.

If you are going to eat things from the water, they need to have fins and scales.

If you are going to eat things that fly, they must not be scavenger birds.

So plain and simple, whole grain foods and breads, fish with fins and scales, meat drained of blood and stripped of fat, vegetables, onion, garlic, leeks, beans and lentils, olive oil, lots of water and fresh grape juice.

Question:  What one thing can you do today that will improve the nutrition level in your life?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

 

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Eight Principles to Living a Healthy Life: Part 1

 

In the early 1970’s‚ a group of people dreamed of having a non-profit health center for the prevention and treatment of degenerative disease. They purchased property in 1977 and the Weimar Institute of Health and Education was opened in May, 1978. What is now known all over the world as the NEWSTART Principles, was only a list of the modalities of healing. Please check out www.newstart.com.  During the first session, one of the health guests put the principles into the easily remembered NEWSTART acronym which stands for: 

N= Nutrition.  Proper nutrition is the foundation for good health and recovery.  Many physicians can substantiate the issues that link nutrition with health or disease.  Diet plays a huge role in heart disease, high blood pressure, obesity, diabetes, and strokes. 

E= Exercise.  Motion is a law of life. Muscle tone and strength are lost without exertion, but exercise improves the health of body, mind, and spirit multiplying vitality and health. Healthy motion should be a combination of aerobic and anaerobic exercise. 

W= Water.  Because the body is 70% water, keeping well hydrated and knowing what and when to drink are essential to health.  We are not talking “fluids” which can include coffee, sodas, energy drinks, etc.  Just plain water does a body good!

S= Sunshine.  The sun is the established energy source ordained by God to sustain the cycle of life for plants and animals. Abundant in Texas, sunlight is supremely important for the body’s metabolism and hormonal balance.  Best source for Vitamin D and Melatonin which are powerful hormones and both play central roles regulating sleep.

T= Temperance.  Using good things moderately and avoiding the bad is obviously wise, yet often hard to practice. Temperance can be neither bought nor earned, moderation in all things is a thread woven throughout the fabric of NEWSTART. 

A= Air. The body’s most essential resource is air. More important than food or water, proper breathing and pure air are fundamental to good health.  That’s why exercising outside can be so beneficial, you get motion, sunshine, and fresh air. 

R= Rest.  Restoration requires rest because sleep allows the body to renew itself. Many types of rest are important for health, but the sweetest rest follows labor. “Early to bed and early to rise” is a vital NEWSTART principle, and a healthy lifestyle makes this principle easier to maintain.

T= Trust in Divine Power.  Directly linked to physical health (Proverbs 3:5-6), trust in God is a gift leading to right choices.  Stress, sickness, and disease can be greatly alleviated when a person puts their faith and confidence in the Creator to guide their lives. 

The NEWSTART principles are based on these powerful wellness themes which have brought renewed health and vitality to tens of thousands of people over the years.

Question:  Which of the eight principle areas do you have the biggest challenge in?  Are you willing to educate yourself so you can live your life in power, strength and confidence?

Please visit The Road website to gain insights on how the mind and the body work together to make a person whole and complete: www.TheRoadAdventure.org and www.newstart.com

 

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How Sexual Abuse Affects People in their Adulthood

 

The statistics are staggering -- there are an estimated 39 million survivors of child sexual abuse in the United States. One out of every four girls and one out of every six boys are sexually abused, with more than 20% abused before the age of eight. Survivors often bring the emotional effects of the abuse into their adulthood.   This impacts families, relationships, work, church, and marriages. 

Here are some of the most common side-effects we have seen at The Road over the past fifteen years of helping people work through sexual abuse issues:

Constant depression due to loss of childhood, safety, and family.

Anger.  A child who is sexually abused may develop very deep anger issues that can have serious consequences as an adult. They may be angry at themselves for not being able to stop the abuse, angry at caregivers for not protecting them from the abuser, and anger directed at the abuser. This anger can cause the victim to become an abuser and to lash out at others, both violently and sexually. Many perpetrators of sexual abuse against children were also victims themselves.

Low self-esteem/self-hatred undermines the ability to succeed in life and to achieve goals.

Develop addictive personalities: Drugs, alcoholism, sex, pornography, work, religion, tattoos.

Fear of unknown which leads to excessive controlling issues.

Numerous failed relationships.

Anxiety and panic disorders.

Fear of ridicule, rejection, and have a huge need to please everyone.

Headaches and Gastrointestinal problems.

Insomnia and sleeping challenges.

Negative self- body image, obesity, and other eating disorders.   

Flashbacks, actually experiences the abuse, as if it were happening at that moment.   

Lack of trust with others and with their ability to make judgment and decisions.

The inability to bond, nurture or love their child may be part of an abused parent's struggles.

Fearful of being close to others.

Feel worthless and humiliated.

Personal and circumstantial boundary issues.

Have not grieved the loss of childhood or innocence.

In an attempt to regain control, become very authoritarian, inflexible.

Isolate in order to keep the secret.

Sexual Intimacy issues from not being able to say “no” or touch is associated with hurt.

Feel unclean, dirty, and damaged.

Interferes with establishing healthy sexual relationships as an adult.

Sabotage relationships.

If you or anyone you know is suffering from a number of the above symptoms from previous sexual abuse, then please encourage them to seek help.  The shame and guilt associated with childhood sexual abuse is devastating and carries with it lots of mid-life baggage and destructive behaviors. 

If you or a person you know was sexually abused as a child and is having issues dealing with it as an adult, please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org so you can attend one of our amazing weekends and find the help, hope, and healing that is needed today. 

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Symptoms of Mid-Life Crisis for Men and Women

 

The term "midlife crisis" surfaced in 1965 at the hands of psychoanalyst Dr. Elliot Jacques.     Dr. Jacques discovered this phenomenon while studying the creative and productive changes that occurred in a group of composers and artists near the age of 35, (NY Times, 2003). He found noticeable declines in productivity and important creativity changes during this study.

By definition, most people associate mid-life to be when a person is in their 40s.  The death of a parent, empty-nest syndrome, visible signs of aging, and boredom with a job or hormonal changes can all converge to produce an emotional environment full of questioning, resentment, fear and depression. 

Men tend to focus on the fear of aging or dying, while women tend to focus on the things that they couldn't do because they were caring for others. With the children grown up, they can finally focus on their personal needs. Also, as financial security increases, there is more room for exploration. In other words, women feel the time has come for more exploration and self-actualization, while men focus on lost time and mortality.

It is common for men experiencing midlife crises to:

Quit their jobs and start new careers that are more fulfilling or exciting.

Spend money on toys such as cars, motorcycles or boats.

Take up exercising when exercise was never a priority before.

Find themselves terribly depressed about and obsessed with how they have lived their lives thus far and how little time they have left.

They may be concerned about sexual changes, including ability to perform sexually, enjoy intense orgasms or make love as often as before. This can result in interest in sexual enhancement products, new sexual partners or new sexual experiences.

Indulging in excessive drinking.

Obsessed with the way one looks.  Dump of the old style of dressing and creating a new look.

Finding one's family, friends and colleagues boring and uncool.

Wanting to do something different and worthwhile with one's life.

The desire to break free from the responsibility of having to provide for the family.  Oftentimes, men feel trapped or stuck in their circumstances. 

It is common for women experiencing midlife crisis to:

Become introspective and question their life purpose.

Question the equality of their life position, especially if they stayed home with children who have now left home; many realize they too want to work a fulfilling career.

Women may question their choice of a life partner and fear they are losing value as a mate as they see signs of aging.

Consider divorce and search for purposeful employment and equitable life partners.

Loss of self-confidence, low self-esteem, and self-condemnation.

Desire to get a break from current life by going to a place far away for an extended period of time.

Not wanting to be in control of the house and not wanting to take care of the family all the time.

Getting extremely depressed if ignored by spouse and kids.

A feeling that all efforts invested in family and career was actually a waste of time and useless.

Getting a tattoo done or some form of plastic or reconstructive surgery just to comfort oneself.

Going on spending sprees.

Having an affair with the longing to have a new, exciting intimate relationship.

Becoming suddenly conscious of one's appearance by either losing or gaining weight.

Bottom Line:  A “midlife” crisis is something you should not take lightly.  If you do not seek out help and try to find out the “Why” behind your behavior, you may be putting yourself and family at risk. 

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms or feel like your life is in a rut, come visit The Road and renew your life again.  www.TheRoadAdventure.org

 

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The Benefits of Having an Attitude of Gratitude: Part 6

 

As I was researching for my gratitude blogs, I came across a website by the author Amit Amin, www.happierhuman.com.  Amit had a great article and incredible insight on gratitude and the amazing benefits of it.  I dedicate this blog to those ideas and his insights.  Gratitude helps us with our emotional, physical, work, personality, and social aspects of our lives.  

Here are the top twenty benefits of expressing gratitude in your life:

1.      Gratitude makes us more optimistic.  The act of gratitude is the act of focusing on the good in life. If we perceive our current life to have more good, we will also believe our future life to have more good. Optimism is correlated with gratitude because those with an optimistic disposition are biologically more likely to focus on the good than on the bad.

2.      Gratitude reduces materialism.  Gratitude helps by reducing our tendency to compare ourselves to those with a higher social status.  An attitude of gratitude is more likely to produce an environment of benevolence.

3.      Gratitude increases spiritualism.

4.      Gratitude makes us less self-centered.

5.      Gratitude increases our self-esteem.

6.      Gratitude improves a person’s sleep.  Gratitude increases sleep quality, reduces the time required to fall asleep, increases sleep duration, and reduces insomnia.

7.      Gratitude keeps a person away from the doctor.  In fact, some recent science shows just that – those who engage in gratitude practices have been shown to feel less pain, go to the doctor less often, have lower blood pressure, and be less likely to develop a mental disorder.

8.      Gratitude lets you live longer.

9.      Gratitude increases your energy levels.

10.  Gratitude helps us to be more resilient and bounce back from trauma and stress.

11.  Gratitude makes us feel good.  According to researcher Robert Emmons, gratitude is just happiness that we recognize after-the fact to have been caused by the kindness of others.  Gratitude doesn’t just make us more happy, it is happiness in and of itself!

12.  Gratitude reduces our feelings of envy.  Gratitude is the act of perceiving benevolence, while envy and jealousy is the act of perceiving inadequacy. Benevolence and inadequacy cannot be completely perceived at the same time.

13.  Gratitude helps us relax.

14.  Gratitude makes you friendlier.

15.  Gratitude helps your marriage.

16.  Gratitude makes you look good and gain the respect of others.  It takes a strong person to acknowledge that they didn’t get to where they are all on their own – that without others they may never have made it.

17.  Gratitude helps you to make and deepen friendships.

18.  Gratitude increases your goal achievement capability.

19.  Gratitude improves your decision making.

20.  Gratitude increases your productivity. 

Bottom line:  Gratitude is not a cure-all, but it is a massively underutilized tool for improving life-satisfaction and overall happiness with our lives.  Be grateful every day and watch your life go in amazing directions and opportunities become readily available. 

The Road is a place where gratitude and thankfulness for your life experiences come to light.  Please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org

A great movie that really impacted me personally about being grateful and the aspects about it, is found at www.thegratitudeexperiment.com or www.DouglesVermeeren.com

 

 

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What Keeps People from Being Grateful? Part 5

 

Being grateful is defined as a feeling of thankfulness for receiving something of benefit to us. We all have something to be grateful for but sometimes things can blind us to that reality.  Here is a video for you to watch that really puts things into perspective:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWlMNldudso

American playwright and novelist, Thornton Wilder, said this about gratitude:

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

Question:  What are the things that block us from being grateful in our lives?

1.      When we compare our lives to a fantasy that doesn’t exist, we then fall victim to the perception that our life is missing something.  Do you have a tendency to focus more on what you don’t have than what you do?  Unrealistic expectations and comparison to others leads to being jealous and envious of what they have, and unhappy with what you personally have.  It’s hard to be grateful when all you can think about is what you don’t have or think you should get. 

 

2.      Sense of entitlement.  This attitude places us in the place of God Himself.  We think sometimes we are guaranteed or have special privileges over others because of our belief in Him.  We can be demanding of God, presumptuous, and often missing the blessing God has for us in the here and now.  If we all got what we truly deserved, nobody would be happy with it, I guarantee you that!  Stop taking things for granted and having the attitude that somebody owes you something, because until you are grateful with today’s blessings, God will not give you more. 

 

3.      Pride.  A grateful heart realizes that everything you have and all your successes involved others.  Pride and ego tells us we did everything on our own.

 

4.      Outside things control our lives.  These would be things such as T.V., media, internet, traffic, busyness of life, etc.  Take a few deep breaths, look around, quiet your mind, and be thankful for all your earthly blessings. 

 

5.      Bad habits.  A habit is a tendency that is repeated until it is done automatically without thinking or conscious intent.  Take time to evaluate your time usage and thought focus during your day.  How does it impact your ability to be grateful?

 

6.      Focus more on the negative than the positive.  That which we focus and place our energy upon becomes our reality.  Gratefulness is a positive principle whereas focusing on what you don’t have is a negative principle. 

Unfortunate truth:  Many tend to focus on what they don’t have, when in reality they are sitting on a pile of blessings!

Questions:  When one of the above things is taking place in your life during the day, what feelings are dominant at the time?  Is it jealousy, regret, anger, fear, sadness, victim mentality, or racism and prejudice towards others? 

The Road is a place where gratitude and thankfulness for your life experiences come to light.  Please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org

A great movie that really impacted me personally about being grateful and the aspects about it, is found at www.thegratitudeexperiment.com or www.DouglesVermeeren.com

 

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The Power of Gratitude in our Lives: Part 4

 

Gratitude is so much more than happy thoughts and a state of mind.  It’s about feeling and it begins to affect who you are not just what you do.  Remember, gratitude has nothing to do with conditions, it’s a choice that we make.  Here is an interesting principle of gratitude:

If we say, “I am grateful FOR” than what we are thankful and appreciative for are things like money, house, family, job, etc. There is nothing wrong with being grateful for things, we should be.   But if we say something different it can change our whole paradigm of how we look at our lives.

If we say, “I am grateful IN” now whatever condition we find ourselves in we are choosing to be grateful.  If you are grateful for ‘where you are’ then you can receive more to be grateful for.  The ultimate form of gratitude and thankfulness is being positive and optimistic even when the conditions of our life aren’t what we want or like.  That’s why the Bible says in 1Thessalonians 5:16-18, “Be joyful always and give thanks IN all your circumstances.”

If we are grateful all goodness can be added to us.  The reason is because that which we are grateful for and appreciate, expands and grows.  We have all seen how this principle works.  When a person is grateful for the ‘little things’ in this life they begin to receive more. 

“Gratitude and appreciation are wonderful things.  They make what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”  Voltaire

Question:  How can somebody be grateful when they have nothing? 

I used to ponder this thought when I went through the lowest time in my life the Summer of 2008.  But as I processed this question and looked at my life I realized one fundamental truth:

Nobody really has nothing!  We all have something we can be grateful for and oftentimes you realize you have so much more than you realized. 

The art of getting more in life is to first have the firm foundation of gratefulness for what you already have then simply just ask for more. 

“He is a wise person who does not grieve for the things which they have not, but rejoices for those which they do have.”  Epictetus

Question:  How can a person have a more grateful life?

Give thought to it every day.  What you focus on expands!

Keep track of your gifts and blessings in the moment.

Remember, being grateful is a decision and is not based on conditions

Express it, write it down, and share it with others

Activity for the day:  Clean out and clean up your home.  Go through everything: closets, drawers, shelves, refrigerator, books, CDs, DVDs, etc.  Pay attention to all you really have.  What could you give away to benefit and bless others? 

The Road is a place where gratitude and thankfulness for your life experiences come to light.  Please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org

A great movie that really impacted me personally about being grateful and the aspects about it, is found at www.thegratitudeexperiment.com or www.DouglesVermeeren.com

 

 

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The Power of Gratitude in our Lives: Part 3

 

Studies have shown that gratitude and thankfulness make a marked difference in the health and well-being of a person.  Gratitude infects our thoughts because when you are thankful and appreciative of what you are receiving this increases our mental capacity and optimism for life. 

Robert Emmons, Ph.D., and professor at the University of California, Davis, has written the first major scientific study on gratitude, its causes, and potential impact on human health. In his work entitled:  Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, Dr. Emmons concluded that “grateful people experience higher levels of positive emotions such as joy, enthusiasm, love, happiness, and optimism, and the practice of gratitude as a discipline protects a person from the destructive impulses of envy, resentment, greed, and bitterness.”

Emmons' book reports on several studies. In the first, he and his colleagues divided participants into three groups, each of which made weekly entries in a journal. One group wrote five things they were grateful for. Another group described five daily hassles and a control group listed five events that had affected them in some way. Those in the gratitude group were:

·         25% happier

·        exercised 1.5 hours more weekly

·        slept more soundly and awoke more refreshed

·        felt better about their lives overall

·        were more optimistic about the future

·        had fewer health problems than the other participants

Results from a second study suggested that daily writing led to a greater increase in gratitude than weekly practice.

Summarizing the findings from studies to date, Emmons says that “ those who practice grateful thinking reap emotional, physical and interpersonal benefits." People who regularly keep a gratitude journal report fewer illness symptoms, feel better about their lives as a whole, and are more optimistic about the future.

Bottom Line:  Gratitude has nothing to do with conditions!  It’s our choice to be grateful in whatever situation we might be in.  

In another related study, researchers at the University of Connecticut found that gratitude can have a protective effect against heart attacks. Studying people who had experienced one heart attack, the researchers found that those patients who saw benefits and gains from their heart attack, such as becoming more appreciative of life, experienced a lower risk of having another heart attack.

It's no secret that stress can make us sick, particularly when we can't cope with it. It's linked to several leading causes of death, including heart disease and cancer, and claims responsibility for up to 90% of all doctor visits. Gratitude, it turns out, can help us better manage stress. "Gratitude research is beginning to suggest that feelings of thankfulness have tremendous positive value in helping people cope with daily problems, especially stress," Dr. Robert Emmons says.

Here is another very interesting study on gratitude and health.  According to Dr. Lisa Aspinwall, PhD, a Psychology Professor at the University of Utah, she says “Grateful people tend to be more optimistic, a characteristic that researchers say boosts the immune system. There are some very interesting studies linking optimism to better immune function.”

The Road is a place where gratitude and thankfulness for your life experiences come to light.  Please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org

A great movie that really impacted me personally about being grateful and the aspects about it, is found at www.thegratitudeexperiment.com or www.DouglesVermeeren.com

 

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The Power of Gratitude in our Lives: Part 2

 

Gratitude and thankfulness are viewed as high level principles in the Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Jewish, and Hindu traditions.  Worship with gratitude to God is a common theme in such religions and therefore, the concept of gratitude permeates religious texts, teachings, and traditions.   So let’s see from the Christian perspective what the Bible teaches about being grateful and thankful. 

In the Bible there are many references to giving thanks.  In the Old Testament Hebrew, the word “yadah” means to praise and give thanks and be thankful.  In the New Testament Greek, the word “Eucharisteo” means to be grateful, thankful and to give thanks. 

The Levites were the priests of God before the people of Israel.  In 1 Chronicles 23:30, we see one of their primary duties was to thank God daily.  “They were also to stand every morning to thank and praise the Lord.  They were to do the same in the evening.”  The principle here is to be grateful in the morning as you start your day and in the evening when you finish your day. 

In the middle book of the Bible, Psalms, the author who is mostly King David, has a common theme running through his poetry. “Oh give thanks to the Lord for He is good, His steadfast love endures forever.”  You can reference Psalm 100:4-5 and Psalm 107:1.

In the New Testament, especially in the Gospels, we find Jesus Christ giving thanks for the simple basic needs of life. In Matthew 14:19 we see Jesus giving thanks for loaves of bread and fishes and in Matthew 15:36 He is giving thanks for loaves of bread and fishes again.  At the last supper with His disciples, in Mark 14:22-24, Jesus gave thanks for the bread and the wine.  Jesus did the same thing again on the Road to Emmaus, in Luke 24:30, He gave thanks for the food put before Him.  In John 11:41, at a burial of one of His best friends, Jesus had the stone rolled away, gave thanks to His Father for hearing His prayer and helping to open the eyes of the people around Him.  So we see a consistent pattern by Jesus Christ, to be grateful and thankful for the basic needs of life and for God hearing our prayers. 

The Bible also has these things to say about being thankful:

Philippians 4:6, “Don’t be anxious for anything, be thankful and let God know your hearts.”

Colossians 3:15, “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…and be thankful.”

1Thessalonians 5:16-18, “Be joyful always and give thanks in all your circumstances.”

In Summary:  Be specifically grateful to God in the morning and evening.  Give God thanks for all things, the good, the bad, and the difficult.  Be grateful for the small things for they lead to bigger things.  Have a continuous attitude of gratitude and thankfulness in our relationship with God, with our families, and with our neighbors. 

The Road is a place where gratitude and thankfulness for your life experiences come to light.  Please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org

A great movie that really impacted me personally about being grateful and the aspects about it, is found at www.thegratitudeexperiment.com or www.DouglesVermeeren.com

 

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The Power of Gratitude in our Lives: Part 1

 

 Definitions of Gratitude:  A feeling of appreciation, thankfulness, or satisfaction when a person has an awareness that they are receiving something of benefit to them and understand where it’s coming from.

A conscious choice to access all the abundant blessings that are there for us.

A conscious awareness of how fortunate we are for all the good that we have received.

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”  Brian Tracy

The link between spirituality and gratitude has recently become a popular subject of study. Studies have found that spirituality is capable of enhancing a person’s ability to be grateful. Gratitude and thankfulness are viewed as high level principles in the Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Jewish, and Hindu traditions.  Worship with gratitude to God is a common theme in such religions and therefore, the concept of gratitude permeates religious texts, teachings, and traditions.

A large body of recent studies has shown that people who are more grateful have higher levels of subjective well-being. Here are some examples of those studies:

·        It seems that grateful people are happier, less depressed, less stressed, and more satisfied with their lives and social relationships. 

·        Grateful people also have higher levels of control of their environments, personal growth, purpose in life, and self-acceptance. 

·        Grateful people have more positive ways of coping with the difficulties they experience in life, being more likely to seek support from other people, reinterpret and grow from the experience, and spend more time planning how to deal with the problem.

·        Grateful people also have less negative coping strategies, being less likely to try to avoid the problem, deny there is a problem, blame themselves, or cope through substance use.

·        Grateful people sleep better, and this seems to be because they think less negative and more positive thoughts just before going to sleep. 

·        Numerous studies suggest that grateful people are more likely to have higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and depression.

·        Other studies have shown that people who were more grateful coped better with a life transition. Specifically, people who were more grateful before the transition were less stressed, less depressed, and more satisfied with their relationships three months later. 

While many emotions and personality traits are important to well-being, there seems to be evidence that gratitude may be uniquely important.  

American playwright and novelist, Thornton Wilder, said this about gratitude:

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

The Road is a place where gratitude and thankfulness for your life experiences come to light.  Please visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org

A great movie that really impacted me personally about being grateful and the aspects about it, is found at www.thegratitudeexperiment.com or www.DouglesVermeeren.com

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What Does R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Actually Mean?

 

RESPECT is not something that a person demands or manipulates from others, it is earned.  RESPECT is not something that is given to you because of your title or because you know some specific person, it is earned. 

Remember the old Smith Barney commercial from 1979 where John Houseman looks into the camera as says, “They make money the old fashioned way, they earn it.” which was thru hard work and research.  RESPECT is like that as well.  RESPECT is something we all want, but it is something that has to be earned. 

Below are seven action steps that can enable you to earn respect from those you lead.

Respect yourself and those you work with.  It all starts with a sense of your own dignity or worth, which includes ones character, and ones conduct.  Having respect for yourself is the whole package of mind and body, the mental and physical, our thoughts and actions, and our words and deeds.
Exceed the expectations of others.  Going the extra mile and worker harder than most, will go a long way in earning the respect of others.  Give more than what is expected and over deliver on your promises. 

Stand firm on your convictions and principles.  The knowledge of your core beliefs religiously, politically, and socially, are essential to earn respect from others.  This gives something firm to stand on and others the willingness to follow.  Know what you believe!

Possess maturity beyond your years.  Staying calm, cool, and collected in challenging situations will earn people’s respect.  Ever noticed in movies the people who always freak out and go crazy in life threatening situations are never the ones who end up with respect.  Clear thinking, patience, and thinking on your feet, that’s how respect is earned. 

Experience success in your family-life and career.  Let’s face it, we do respect the person who pours their life into their business and becomes a great success.  But as a society, we respect even more those who can build a successful business and be a great spouse and parent all at the same time.  When people have their priorities right, that earns the respect of the people. 

Contribute to the success of others.  I love the slogan from BNI, “Givers Gain”.  By being a servant to others and helping others succeed, people respect you for that.  Anytime you invest time, energy, and finances into others, people really take notice. 

Think ahead of others.  People respect those who have a vision for their destination and what it will take to get there.  Those who have goals and a plan of action always earn the trust and respect of others.  People respect those who are confident, educated, have faith, and have imagination. 

Question:  Which of the letters above are you most deficient in?  Do you find that people respect you or do they fear you?

If you would like to learn more about RESPECT and how important it is in your personal life, visit our website at www.TheRoadAdventure.org and register for one of our weekend experiences.  Great leadership resources can be found at www.johnmaxwell.com and www.johnmaxwellonleadership.com

 

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Nine Common Characteristics of High Self-Esteem

 

“I have often wondered how it is everyone loves himself more than the rest of men, but yet sets less value on his own opinions of himself than the opinions of others.”

Marcus Aurelius

1. Believe in themselves: People who have high self-esteem have confidence in their own abilities. They recognize what they’re good at, are confident that they are able to improve where necessary and unlike people with low self-esteem, believe that they deserve to do better. The effect of this is that they are often ambitious in their chosen field and do well in their careers as they consistently strive for improvement and personal success. They don’t waste time indulging in negative self-talk.  They take responsibility for their own actions and they don’t look to others to make decisions for them. They do not need the approval of others to feel good about who they are.

2. Know what they want or need: People with high self-esteem generally have clear ideas about what they want or need and are able to communicate these needs and wants to others.  Feel worthy of love and approval. They approve of themselves and are not desperate for other people’s approval.  They truly are capable of loving others unconditionally. They don’t have an inner need to change anyone else.  They accept responsibility for their lives and the decisions they make.  They know their values and roles and what’s really important to them. 

3. Effective communication skills: It’s common for people with high self-esteem to be good communicators. This includes having good listening skills which leave them open to taking advice, being open to change and new ideas.

4. Drive to succeed: Not surprisingly people with high self-esteem have the drive to succeed. They are generally more flexible and find it easier to overcome challenges and disappointments along the way. They don’t worry about mistakes and even when they do make mistakes, they have the inner resources to learn from mistakes and then move on.

5. Comfortable with change: Because people with high self-esteem are comfortable with change, they enthusiastically seek out new opportunities and are open to embracing new ideas. Getting out of their comfort zones is not uncomfortable for them.  They are also happy to learn new skills to support them with any new challenges.

6. Enjoy healthy relationships: With their good communication skills and their enthusiasm to succeed, people with high self-esteem generally enjoy good healthy relationships and are able to accept constructive criticism, without letting it dent their confidence. Because of their confidence they are rarely competitive with others because they are comfortable with their own abilities and accept others where they are at.  They don’t put others down to build themselves up and they tend to be forgiving towards others.

7. Goal-oriented: They are very focused on self-improvement and success and are often good at planning and setting goals as well as achieving them.  They have a sense of purpose and direction and confidently go for it. 

8. Able to laugh at their self:  We all do silly things and life happens. They don’t fret and worry about it – they just laugh it off. They understand that laughter is the best medicine.  They love life and tend to be optimistic and positive about the direction of their life. 

9. Taking care of themselves physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually:  They take care of themselves physically by exercising and eating well. Emotionally by clearing negative emotions. Mentally by reading, learning new things. Spiritually by meditating on the Bible, being in silence, or praying.

A great place to answer many of the questions in this blog post and discover how much worth you really have is The Road, please go to www.TheRoadAdventure.org to learn more. 

 

 

 

 



 

 

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When You Look in the Mirror, What Do You See?

 

In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall sense of self-worth or personal value. Self-esteem can involve a variety of beliefs about self, such as the appraisal of one's own appearance, beliefs, emotions and behaviors.  Self-esteem is really about if  you like yourself, if you think you are a good person, with a lot of good qualities, and that you deserve good things.  

There are two parts to Self-esteem:  external and internal

External Self-esteem is that what you get when you accomplish something or the self-esteem you feel when you are in a specific role and/or environment.  For example, lets say you are a manager somewhere. You then might feel high Self-esteem because of the situation/role you’re in.  However, when you go outside the place you’re not the manager anymore and you lose the good, confident feelings because it’s not coming from within.  It was role/situation based.  This is the external and temporary form of Self-esteem. 

Internal Self-esteem is basically seeing one’s self as a worthy human being. It’s how you think of yourself.  It’s your overall value of yourself and how worthy you feel you are. And this all comes down to the beliefs you have about yourself.

High Self-esteem is a natural feeling that comes from within, and once you change the blocking beliefs to feeling it, you restore your inborn feeling of high Self-esteem.

Self-esteem questions:

  • Do you believe you are a worthy human being?
  • Do you feel good about yourself?
  • Do you like, love and respect yourself?
  • Do you feel you deserve success and happiness?

In Psychology, the term Self-image is used to describe the way a person feels about his or her personality, achievements and value to society.  How you view yourself, i.e. intelligent, attractive, unattractive, popular, stupid, loser, etc.  Your Self-image is the total of all the impressions which you have of yourself. It is built up of your impressions about your body, age, sex, intelligence, personal ability, personality traits, job, achievements, and how you feel about those impressions.

There are three parts to Self-image:

  1. Self image resulting from how the individual sees himself or herself
  2. Self image resulting from how others see the individual
  3. Self image resulting from how the individual perceives others see him or her

What is the difference between Self-image and Self-esteem?

Self-image is the total of all the impressions which you have of yourself while Self-esteem is a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth.

Self-image it is the mental picture that is quite resistance to change and depicts not only details that are potentially accessible to objectives by others but also items that have been learned by that person. In Self-esteem, this reflects a person's overall evaluation of his/her own worth encompassing beliefs and emotions such as despair, triumph, pride and shame.

Bottom line truth:

You are valuable…

You are worth it…

You are special creation meant for a unique and important purpose…

A great place to answer many of the questions in this blog post and discover how much worth you really have is The Road, please go to www.TheRoadAdventure.org to learn more. 

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